As we grow into our role as a father, whether we are raising sons or raising daughters, we will eventually develop our own particular parenting style. Practically put, this is the way we operate as a father, and is often influenced by the male role models we have had in life. You may find yourself repeating something that your dad said to you as a child, and this may or may not be a good thing depending upon their fathering style.
Fathering in the 21st century is not always easy, but thankfully we can draw upon the wisdom of the scriptures for parenting insights that work.
MODERN FATHERING STYLES
We often unwittingly take on the attitudes and mannerisms of our own fathers, although we are not bound to stick with those fathering styles if we do not find them beneficial to our own family.
What is your style of being a father? Following is a simplified list of some (but not all) of the most typical fathering styles adopted in modern times. Each of these individual styles of fathering brings a set of consequences that will either improve or trouble your future relationship with your children.
Some Modern Fathering Styles
Modern Fathering Styles- The Absent Dad
The absent Dad is characterized as the man who has fathered a child but takes little or no part in the child’s life. This may or may not be his desire as sometimes relationship breakdowns result in the father being isolated from his child from no fault of his own.
Modern Fathering Styles- The 'Ask Mum' Dad
The ‘ask Mum’ Dad is the father who although present in body, has yielded much of the daily decision-making and disciplining of the children to his wife. He is often characterized as a man caught up with so many external things outside the family unit that he has nothing left mentally or emotionally for them.
Modern Fathering Styles- The Dictator Dad
The dictator Dad is the father who runs the home like a Prisoner of War Camp and has the kids jumping incessantly through fear of punishment. This fathering style is often characterized by shouting and threatening dire circumstances if directions are not followed immediately.
Modern Fathering Styles- The Pushover Dad
The pushover Dad is the father who is so soft emotionally that his children can twist him around their little fingers and get everything they want by merely batting their eyelids and saying ‘Please Dad!!!!’
Modern Fathering Styles- The Involved Dad
The involved Dad is the father who has grasped the importance of taking up his role as head of the home to serve his family through leadership and self-sacrifice. He ensures that he is involved in as many areas of his child’s life as possible, taking an interest, and in encouraging and financing his child’s development. He is also responsible for the loving application of discipline within the home, and one of his greatest roles is to lead by example.
You may see some elements of your fathering style in more than one of those modern styles listed, or as the list is not comprehensive you may not see your parenting style at all. This teaching aims to help dads identify their fathering style and decide whether to maintain it or try to improve certain areas that do not seem beneficial to their family.
How we as fathers, are seen by our children is important, for not only do we shape young lives into adulthood, but the relationship we have with them today will affect the relationship they want to have with us in the future.
God Bless
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Important and helpful wisdom here. Thanks! Tom
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